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Mars and Venus, or is it Uranus and Venus??

So I get it, men and women have two different styles of communicating.   Women communicate and men don’t.   Okay, so that wasn’t exactly fair.  Let’s say men communicate long enough to get a woman hooked and then they’re done, and the woman is left wondering what happened to stop it.

Guys, be sure and chime in here if you think I’m wrong about this.  This is something which is quite perplexing to me and I am always up for learning more about the male mind and what makes it tick.  Let me just throw a scenario at you—new guy, been talking almost two weeks, finally met last Friday night.  We have touched on numerous subjects, and he has shared many, very personal things with me.  This surprised me at first because he was so open, but I can roll with it.  I tend to have that effect on people, and I figure the more comfortable he feels sharing things with me, the better off we are if this is headed towards “relationship” status.

Anyway, lots of personal information, seems very honest, etc, we meet last Friday night and the chemistry was all there in person too, and we even touched on being open to exploring a relationship.  I talked to him Saturday morning before he went to work, we texted a bit on Saturday night, I sent him a text on Sunday, to which I received no reply, and called him and left a message.  Basically, I haven’t heard from him since Saturday night.  I’m thinking WTF??  Is this normal?  We totally click, and agree on this fact, even in person all the chemistry is there.  (For those of you who internet date, you know that sometimes you can click over messages and texts, but have no chemistry in person.)

I am at a loss. I am now refusing to text him, or call him.   Yeah, I’m really tough like that.  Oh, hell!  Who am I kidding??  This guy seems so great that when he does get ahold of me, I will probably act like it’s no big deal that he hasn’t talked to me for days.  Which to him, maybe it isn’t a big deal.  Maybe he doesn’t think anything of it.  He does have an extremely demanding job, which he is on call for and usually only gets about 12 hours between shifts.  Friday he managed to not get called in, so he hopped in his truck and drove the hour and fifteen minutes to come meet me in person.  I am in no way making excuses, I just know how guys can be extremely one-track minded.

I do think this guy likes me and is interested in me, so why am I getting so freaked out by the lack of communication?  At my age I don’t really want someone up in my shit all the time, and I am sure he feels the same.  Plus, we aren’t officially dating at this point, so should I expect him to have daily contact??  Maybe I only expect the daily contact because I got that the first week.  Seriously, if I’m dating someone, then yes, I do expect to have daily contact with them.  But for now I think this thing is supposed to be casual, though I think if we were about 15 years younger, we would be so up this shit it would be unbelievable!!

I am going to attempt to play it cool.  He is aware I am quite interested in him, and I believe the feeling is mutual.  At this point what more can I do?  I have to stand back, let go of my control issues, and let him take the lead.  He is the man after all.  And what a huge, smokin’ hot, hunk of a man he is!! 😉

Like I said—please comment and let you know what you think!!  I would love to hear everyone’s opinions!

 

 

 

 

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5 thoughts on “Mars and Venus, or is it Uranus and Venus??

  1. Hmm. I would say a dropoff in contact AFTER you met is troubling. But he did drive 75 minutes to meet you, and that’s big, especially if he knew he wasn’t getting lucky. But my dear, you deserve to be chased. Make him come after you, I say. If he doesn’t, he’s not worth it, no matter how hot. But that is only my humble opinion 🙂

  2. I would agree I deserve to be chased!! Thanks so much for saying so. I should probably say there are extenuating circumstances at this point in the relationship, if I can even refer to it in those terms. At this point it is basically a friendship, with a lot of chemistry.

    He was very aware he wasn’t getting lucky, and also made it clear to me, shortly after we started communicating, that he wasn’t looking for just sex. I also truly don’t mean to belittle him by saying how smokin’ hot he is. I really am not so shallow that all I go for is eye candy. We have many things in common, we seem to communicate well, and make each other laugh.

    Very rarely do I come across a guy who gets me firing on all cylinders. Maybe it’s just me, but there have been a few times in my life when I have met people, I say people because it’s not just men, that I know when I meet them they are meant to be a part of my life. Has that ever happened to you? I have an entry I have been working on about this particular serendipity I am speaking of. Anyway, I have this feeling about him, but will have to let it play out to see if I am correct I guess.

    Thanks for visiting me again!!

  3. Androgoth on said:

    I wouldn’t give him a second thought,
    he had his chance and he has blown it.

    It is rather simplistic, and after only two
    weeks of knowing this guy are you really
    bothered one way or the other?

    I hope not…

    Androgoth

    • I am bothered by it. Which in turn really bothers me, because I really shouldn’t be bothered by it, should I? Now I am left with trying to figure out why I have let it bother me so much.

      Thanks so much for reading and commenting! I am going to go check your blog out now. 🙂

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