So I get it, men and women have two different styles of communicating. Women communicate and men don’t. Okay, so that wasn’t exactly fair. Let’s say men communicate long enough to get a woman hooked and then they’re done, and the woman is left wondering what happened to stop it.
Guys, be sure and chime in here if you think I’m wrong about this. This is something which is quite perplexing to me and I am always up for learning more about the male mind and what makes it tick. Let me just throw a scenario at you—new guy, been talking almost two weeks, finally met last Friday night. We have touched on numerous subjects, and he has shared many, very personal things with me. This surprised me at first because he was so open, but I can roll with it. I tend to have that effect on people, and I figure the more comfortable he feels sharing things with me, the better off we are if this is headed towards “relationship” status.
Anyway, lots of personal information, seems very honest, etc, we meet last Friday night and the chemistry was all there in person too, and we even touched on being open to exploring a relationship. I talked to him Saturday morning before he went to work, we texted a bit on Saturday night, I sent him a text on Sunday, to which I received no reply, and called him and left a message. Basically, I haven’t heard from him since Saturday night. I’m thinking WTF?? Is this normal? We totally click, and agree on this fact, even in person all the chemistry is there. (For those of you who internet date, you know that sometimes you can click over messages and texts, but have no chemistry in person.)
I am at a loss. I am now refusing to text him, or call him. Yeah, I’m really tough like that. Oh, hell! Who am I kidding?? This guy seems so great that when he does get ahold of me, I will probably act like it’s no big deal that he hasn’t talked to me for days. Which to him, maybe it isn’t a big deal. Maybe he doesn’t think anything of it. He does have an extremely demanding job, which he is on call for and usually only gets about 12 hours between shifts. Friday he managed to not get called in, so he hopped in his truck and drove the hour and fifteen minutes to come meet me in person. I am in no way making excuses, I just know how guys can be extremely one-track minded.
I do think this guy likes me and is interested in me, so why am I getting so freaked out by the lack of communication? At my age I don’t really want someone up in my shit all the time, and I am sure he feels the same. Plus, we aren’t officially dating at this point, so should I expect him to have daily contact?? Maybe I only expect the daily contact because I got that the first week. Seriously, if I’m dating someone, then yes, I do expect to have daily contact with them. But for now I think this thing is supposed to be casual, though I think if we were about 15 years younger, we would be so up this shit it would be unbelievable!!
I am going to attempt to play it cool. He is aware I am quite interested in him, and I believe the feeling is mutual. At this point what more can I do? I have to stand back, let go of my control issues, and let him take the lead. He is the man after all. And what a huge, smokin’ hot, hunk of a man he is!! 😉
Like I said—please comment and let you know what you think!! I would love to hear everyone’s opinions!