Turkey With a Side of Adultery
Holidays aren’t just for shaving my brother’s back, they’re also for catching up on hometown gossip. I come from a fairly small town of about 4,000 people, so I am always interested in what’s going on back home in “Peyton Place”. This year, the turkey wasn’t the only juicy tidbit I got. My brother informed me that the married elementary school secretary has been getting busy after hours with a male teacher’s aide. . . . on the principal’s desk!!! WTF?? Hey dumbass, you work in the school, and you aren’t aware there are video cameras all over the place? Whatever happened to kickin’ it old school and driving out into the country and humping in the back seat of your car? An elementary school has to be about one of the un-sexiest places I could think of.
The other story involved a married doctor who went home and professed his love for the married neighbor lady, to his wife. The interesting part of this story being that he told his wife he was leaving her for said married neighbor lady, but wanted to know if it didn’t work out with him and his new love, if he could come back. I can only hope her reply was, “Not only no, but fuck no!”.
Here’s what bothers me about this–it makes me feel like there’s no hope. If at some point I would manage to get a man, is he just going to cheat on me? My ex-husband cheated. I have had more than one boyfriend who has cheated. Could I even hope to have a relationship with a man who would be faithful? Maybe that’s the reason I’m still single.
You are not alone. I am divorced. My Ex-husband cheated. The boyfriend I was with before I met my Ex also cheated. Matter of face, I think almost every guy I have ever dated has cheated. Since my divorce, I have not been on one date. I’m too jaded and cynical right now to date. However, I am in therapy to work through this issue, among many others.
Like you, I cannot help but feel that there is no hope.
Most of the time I am not overly cynical, but sometimes my encounters with men leave me feeling so. I know there have to be good men out there, but I guess I don’t ever meet them! lol
Ha-Ha! Well then, neither do I. 🙂
Oh goodness. I do believe there are good men in the world, although I too have been cheated on. I’m a glass half to three quarters full type, though, and my sweetheart reaffirms my positive attitude every day. Hang in there. 🙂
I feel the need to defend my brothers here by letting you know that just as many of us are jaded by the fact just as many women have cheated on us
No need to defend your brothers, because I am aware women are just as guilty of cheating as men.
I don’t want to be jaded, or cynical, or fearful. I want to be receptive to love, and I want to trust, but because of my history, it’s hard for me to do so.
Right there with ya sister. After my last go round its gonna be a long time before I dip my toe in those shark filled waters again
Oh hell, I jump in head first! It doesn’t stop me from taking stupid chances. I am a fool for love! Well, it hasn’t actually been love, but you get my drift! lol
Girl, I could have another blog dedicated to my stupid chances but thats what got me into trouble the first time.
I guess that’s sort of what my blog is, now that I think about it—all of my stupid chances. 😉
There are good men out there. I promise you. The trick is fining him.
I am obviously looking in all the wrong places! lol
I am on my third marriage.. my first husband was so bad we refer to him as Satan.. because he totally wrecked me I ended up settling for his cousin, we call him shithead… Well I finally got the courage to step up and put me and by then my kids first.. We walked away from him never looking back. I’m currently married to a man who is totally faithful.. who completely loves me and does everything in his power to make me happy and let me know that I am the only one he wants. I promise you there is one out there for you… and they usually ended up bumping into you when you are completely not looking for them!
Thanks! That gives me hope! 🙂
Cheaters are a dime a dozen. Faithfuls are worth waiting for. Chin up shugg!!
Being alone during the holidays always gets to me, and I hate it. I will trudge through!
Humanity will almost always disappoint you but that’s no reason to give up hope. There will always be cheaters but, thankfully, there will always be HOPE.
I continue to have hope, long after the cheaters have come and gone. I just always get bogged down in crap during the holidays.
I sometimes think that too . . . is it really worth gving so much of yourself to a relationship only to have it all thrown back in your face? Avoid relationships, avoid the heartache. But is that necessarily the best attitude to have? I don’t know the answer. Wish I did!
I am always willing to “jump into the fire” so to speak. I will continue to put myself out there, regardless of the outcome. I suppose I am, at my core, a hopeless romantic.
Can’t answer the meaning of life question, but we need that teacher and secretary to join the team at LAUSD. They would fit right in.
I’m an eternal optimist, if I wasn’t I couldn’t get out of bed every morning. For me it’s about finding not just a man who doesn’t cheat as I know they are out there but a man who is fun, energetic and lives life to the fullest.
Yes, when I add together all the things I want in a man, it seems like a pretty tall order to fill. However, I keep hoping he’s out there. 🙂
I think that I no longer want to do the work it takes to be interesting to a man. Men only notice me when I look good and that takes work. I don’t want to do it.
I’ve also noticed men seem to look at young women, I’m sick of that.
Men also only notice me when Im thin.
I like to look good for myself, so I do the work. I think men do notice, but I have also had guys tell me that I don’t need makeup to be beautiful.
I think maybe men my age look at younger women for the same reason I look at younger men—that they possibly view them as being less complicated, like they’re carrying less baggage.
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