A Narcissistic Fairytale
He’s the narcissistic fox, and I am the trusting gingerbread man.
run, run, as fast as you can,
don’t let him catch you,
he’s the narcissistic man
If you’ve been hanging around here for a couple of years reading the drivel I write, you’re probably aware I was in a relationship with a narcissist a couple of years ago. If you’re interested in going back, I talk about it here, and here. That was when I first started my blog, and I had about 2 followers at the time. I might possibly have a few more than that now. Anyway, fast forward to 2013, and here I am face to face with a narcissist again. What to do, what to do?
Fat Bottom Girl Said What 
Hey may love you, but you’d always be second best. That’s by definition, I think.
I doubt his capacity to truly love anything. 😦 I think he wants to use me, for various reasons, when it’s convenient to him. I don’t know if I have the energy to even be his friend.
Do what feels good and makes you happiest. From what you’ve said, that may be to cut the ties and let him be himself, and to let you be yourself. Those are my two cents.
I like him because he seems to get me. However, since coming to the realization he’s a narcissist, I wonder if my feeling that way, is simply because he knows to play to those parts of me.
I wonder if there’s something in his history that’s bugging you. Does he treat people well in general. I think those are good angles to explore.
I think what bothers me most is that he’s an “embellisher”, and basically, an all-out liar. I am a VERY honest person, so when I find out I’ve been lied to, it really hurts my feelings.
Imho, that doesn’t sound like feeling good and making you happy. I can relate, btw. Honesty is a cornerstone for me, too.
I agree–doesn’t make me feel good or happy. Trying to work through it all right now and figure out why I feel like sticking around and not abandoning him. I think it’s most likely my need to fix everything.
You’re a nurturer. He’s a lucky duck if you choose to spend more time with him. He must have some good qualities if you’re tossing it around instead of tossing him out.
Say “You are looking good. but you knew that” 🙂
Well, if I was a narcissist, I would think I look good all the time, but since I’m not, I think I look good about 50% of the time. hahaha
I hate to say it but Don is right. My own two pennies worth of advice is that the beginning of a relationship is the best it ever gets, so if it’s not that great I’d say don’t go there.
I wouldn’t even think about getting into a romantic relationship with him. At this point I am just trying to decide if I can even be friends with him. I guess if I would treat him like he treats me, then we can be friends. Well, technically I’m not sure he knows what a friend is. lol
Follow your gut. Red flags are red flags for a reason.
Where’s the fun in that?
She’s had fun enough–one narcissistic relationship is more than plenty for a lifetime.
So true Melanie! lol I know better than to get involved in any sort of romantic relationship with him, and am wondering if I can even be friends with him. Ever since I met him I felt like he just “got me”. . . and this week I figured out why!! The light bulb went on!
You know he’s bad for you. Break the cycle and don’t repeat yourself. If you’re uncomfortable with him, it’s not going to improve.
Why do I feel the need to “be the bull” and chase after the damn things instead of running away?? I am sooo fucked up! lol
Run! Run away!
Well, maybe get one last lay, and then run away.
lol. . .we didn’t have sex! I knew there was some reason I didn’t want to go there with him, you know? I had this feeling that if I allowed him access to that, he would claim my soul, and not in a good way!
Good for you! Take care of yourself.
I have been trying to do a much better job of that! 😉
Considering you’re aware enough at this stage of how iffy this dude is, I think you’re doing well.
In the past I would still be pretending like everything was fine, and just stuffing that gut feeling about things not being right. So I am feeling pretty good about being more self-aware.
Danger, Will Robinson! Liars never change and you can’t trust them even when they tell the truth. I don’t think I’d have the energy (or desire) to even be his friend. And you, with your honesty — nah. Too different to even connect. Acquaintance, perhaps.
Narcisissists are draining – they suck all the life out of you. He’d love you if you were a mirror, but since you are not — you are your own colorful self-portrait — there is no room for him in your life.
Congratulate yourself on not considering a relationship with him — go mix up a big pitcher of margaritas. Be proud — your ‘guy-dar’ is working just fine. You saw the red flag and stopped. Proud of ya!
Thanks Stuck! I am trying!
While your QUESTIONING the relationship. RUN AWAY FAST.
At this point am only questioning the friendship. Trying to figure out if I can sustain my boundaries and still be friends with him.