Last Sunday I stepped on to a plane mourning being separated from my son once again. I stepped off the plane to a different kind of mourning–the death of my step-brother.
Step-families are a totally other dimension. I can’t say I’m overly close to any of my step-siblings, even after 30 years, but my step-brother was by far, my favorite.
He was more like a cool party buddy. I tried to avoid family functions if he wasn’t going to be there, because he was the only thing that made them fun. He and my brother and I would sit around and talk about his youngest sister, because none of us liked her. She’s a bossy busybody, who thinks the world should revolve around her. Which, she has once again proven by sending out a group text asking everyone to bring birthday cards for her 26 year old son because obviously, her brother had the gall to die and have his funeral on her son’s birthday. What. The. Ever. Loving. Fuck.
I told my step-brother in my head that he will have to help me bite my tongue when I’m around her. And my brother and I joked that it was just the sort of bullshit that all of us would be laughing about if we were sitting around drinking together on another occasion.
But none of this changes the fact my step-mother has lost her son, and my niece has lost her father, and her children have lost their grandpa. On Monday, I will lift my glass to him because he’s the only one who ever made me feel like I was ever a part of that family. And I will miss him, and I will thank the universe I still have my brother.