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On Becoming a Cougar

Cougar:  An “older,” experienced woman who happens to find herself in a sexual relationship (committed or not) with a younger man. She is not necessarily a slut, nor is she desperate. She offers sexual expertise and is open to new experiences. She simply wants to have fun. Though older, she may actually look younger than her “hook-up.” She is attractive, confident, and just wants to have fun. She will not attempt to trap her mate into marriage, children or even an exclusive relationship. She is not interested in drama or games, as that would interfere with the pleasure she enjoys.
My friend says I’m a cougar because I’m having sex with a younger guy, but I didn’t hunt him down – he approached ME!
Let’s just get this straight–I have never set out to intentionally hook up with a guy much younger than me.  Frankly, I have wondered how men and women do it.  What do you have in common with someone who is, perhaps, 15 years younger than you?  Most likely it’s not much, but does that mean you can’t have any relationship?  I have begun to contemplate this very question after being messaged by quite a few younger guys on POF.
Yes, you remember POF (Plenty of Freaks)?  POF and I have a real love/hate relationship.  Basically I hate the fact that I love attention.  I am a fucking attention whore.  I admit it.  I love it.  And when it’s attention from 30-something smokin’ hotties?  I adore it!  Right now I am speaking specifially of one, dark-haired, blue-eyed, lickable pecs, 30 year old man.  Guess what?  He messaged me.  That’s right.  I don’t search for 30 year old guys.  The youngest I search is 35, because usually, I am not a cougar.  I am totally considering making an exception at this point though.
Why would I make an exception?  First of all because he’s hot.  A lot hotter than any 40  year old man I’ve seen recently.  Not to mention, he messaged me.  Plus, I’m pretty sure it would just be all about sex, but at this point that is sounding quite appealing.  Did I mention he’s hot?  🙂
What do you think?  Do you think I can do what so many have men have done for years, and many more women are doing now?  Can I have a May-December romance?  I’m thinking I might like to try.

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5 thoughts on “On Becoming a Cougar

  1. Do it! Dooooooooo itttttttttt!

    • Hahaha…if I do, I will be sure & spill the beans about it! None of these guys seems to be very consistent about texting even, so I have to wonder if that carries over into the bedroom! Lol. Only one way to find out I suppose. Either it will be rockin’, or it be worth taking my pants off for. 🙂

  2. It doesn’t hurt to try!! 🙂 I am 36 and slept with a 22 yr old recently. I never fancied myself a cougar before that as I tend to go for men my age or a little older but he was cute and I gave it a try. That particular sex just felt weird to me. The age difference was too much. Yet I have a 28 yr old fuck buddy and that has been going great, so IDK. The oldest guy I have been with is 43 and I am loving that. Its all about personal chemistry and dynamics!

  3. My husband is ten years older than me and we have so much in common that most of the time we forget about the age difference. My ex was my age. Now I can’t imagine how I could ever have been with someone under forty, haha! I think it’s all relative. If it works out, awesome! If its just great sex, awesome! If it just turns out to have only been a thrill and a bit of a boost, awesome! It’s win-win.

  4. I date younger men and they always approach me. I have never tried to hit on a a younger guy. I am typically more attracted to younger men but that is a whole other story. But I never initiate it.

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